Being a single mom How to raise your child to be happy
Being a single mom How to raise your child to be happy
If you want to talk about being a father, it's not easy for humans, fathers today. Because when you have to go to work outside the home in which some parents do not only work with one job, some people have to work hard 2-3 jobs because of their children's expenses such as tuition, food, clothes, tuition fees or even the cost of wanting to buy "quality of life" Too many children.
Tell me, this is not easy. In the era that turned into what to touch everything is an expense. This is the size of some families. Hard work for both parents There are still quite a few financial concerns. Then a single parent who has to face many problems on his own you don't have to tell me. This anxiety stress in financial problems, time management, sudden anxiety or loneliness, of a single parent who has had to bear all this burden on herself. I understand that how much patience will you spend fighting these problems?
How to Raise a Child During COVID-19 for Single Parents
During a global crisis like COVID-19 this is a huge challenge for single parents and children because your income is not just the only way out. Some unmarried parents have faltered in a negative way. Income has no way it's really troubling. But the expenses that have been on the continent are all the more alarming. In addition, the spread of the virus is putting great pressure on single parents. Due to the closure of some schools and nursing homes, children have to study online. If the child is older, then it will not be so difficult. But if you are a young child, this can be challenging and bring a lot of anxiety to single parents. Because you must take care of your children while explaining to them the dangers of Coronavirus and avoiding fear. Some people may have to find activities with children at home during COVID so that children are not too bored and you still have to be prepared to find it how to cope when your child goes to school in the event of a coronavirus infection because COVID-19 security measures must be followed in school. Strictly
So any single parent wants to overcome these challenges ... let's start with the organization. To eliminate the particular financial challenge of raising children because financial matters are important to taking care of children. Raising a child with one-way or one-way income can be a challenge when finances are tight and unplanned. The allocation of all expenses will have a domino effect. Therefore, single parents should spend some time learning how to handle them. Adapting and being happy at the same time will help solve these problems as well, anyway. Nevertheless, from time to time a single parent or a single mother needs help from either family or friends. Don't be afraid to talk. Because that's a big support and encouragement for you anyway.
And finding support as a single parent or mother, where can I find it? It's not difficult, you can do like (1)
You may need to accept help from relatives and friends who want to let you borrow some of their time, such as asking for leave after school.
"Exchanging" with other relatives or friends is a great support. Because sometimes we participate or have an emergency situation having an agreement to look after each other's children is a very good thing. Today we take care of him another day, he takes care of him. If he's in this shape it will make you feel less awkward if you need to seek help.
It is advisable to search for relatives or friends you can trust. Ask them to guide your child every evening. A few hours you'll have more time. For potentially going to earn more income or going overtime at work it's a good thing, right?
Ask your relatives or friends if ... are they willing to let your child spend the night in their home sometimes? So you can have time for yourself
Additionally, there are also some families in a situation where the father or mother supports the child together, but they may not be together. Because of the father or mother who felt this together raising kids together see you soon may make you feel angry, or in pain, or in a moment, and argue too. Use violence that may not be appropriate for your child. These things may affect your child's feelings, and children should be able to meet both parents on a regular basis. Even if you start a new relationship or have a new family (1) at first, you may find that there is something different about your child's behavior. Or, sometimes children may behave badly when they return home after seeing or visiting the other side. Attention by talking to your child is another way you may know if your child is upset or confused in the situation he is facing home. Return to this house and this will allow you to explain and rationalize to your child to understand the situation that is going on. But if you don't think that something bad has happened after your child has met and visited the other side. The best way to give them confidence and ensure that their children are taken care of wherever they are. Ultimately, your child learns about the situations they face when they need them. Have you with you when should they come home or for how long will they be able to see you?
Let's take a look at 14 tips but not the secrets we give you for your mom and dad.
1. Don't neglect to take care of yourself.
This is very important because before you can take care of others, you have to take care of yourself first. Take care of your needs Whether getting enough sleep is excellent food for good health and this would be a great way to give you the power to nurture your baby. Effective way
Because many parents put their child's needs first. You always have to come to one. But it can lead to a cycle of burnout. Find a time to eat healthy, consistent food. Get enough rest and find time to exercise whenever you can. Even walking around or near the house will help your body move. Get fresh air, too. It is very important when you do not neglect to take care of yourself. Of course, you will not neglect taking care of your children either because your children are dependent on you. And that's up to you anyway, you'll be ready to take care of them.
2. Talk to people in your situation.
Sometimes, you might feel just like yourself. Trying to find single parents in the same area. Or it may be near a child's school. It is one way to help you join forces to build a mutually beneficial relationship, such as organizing exchanges, raising children, and bringing your children to work together. Because, believe it or not, meeting other single parents will make you and your baby happier. In addition, there are also many online groups based on social media that will give you good advice and encouragement.
3. Create a group or community
Other than single parent families, other families must consist of all types of families. Instead of focusing on just one parent's side. You and your child should participate in the same extracurricular activities, such as taking your child swimming together, learning art, etc. This will bring diversity and excitement into your life. As if it is adding color for you and your baby
4- Accept some help
Because you are not a superhero or have special powers. You don't have to do everything on your own. There may be people in your life who care a lot about you and your children. And they will be happy to help, for example, taking your child to school once a week on your busy day can be a big help. really? Don't think that when we ask for help we seem weak or incompetent. Because when they are ready to help you, that means they want you to take a break and provide you with the energy to get back in the fight.
5. Look for additional income opportunities.
Lonely parenting with only one way of income It is a very tough challenge with endless costs. Hiring a mentor can be a cost beyond your power. But you can also create alternative methods, such as leaving your child with a trusted relative. Or, perhaps swapping children with single parents is a good idea. Also, your child will have friends who play while you are away.
6. Always planning
As a single parent or mother one thing you have to keep in mind is that. Advance planning for emergencies A backup plan or second is necessary in the event of an emergency. Make a list of names you know or you can call when you have an emergency. When there are dangerous events, is there anyone you can count on? Or you might check to see if the area you are in Is there daily or individual babysitting service? Knowing that someone can care for your child in times of crisis can relieve the anxiety that may arise in stressful situations.
For those on a small budget we recommend that you take advantage of technology. You don't need to buy an expensive smartphone for your kids to use, but it can be a "kids phone watch" that can connect and use the built-in GPS to find your child's whereabouts. It is not expensive. But performance is very beneficial for safety.
7. Create a routine for your child.
Routine is especially important for young children because you will be able to allocate and control time if your child is traveling between the house or there are many helpers you may not be able to predict what will happen along the way. You may need to specify as many procedures and times as possible. Includes bedtime. Food time until the weekend routine
Which does not mean that you will not be able to change anything. not like this. But establishing a routine is a schedule to start the time and activities for your child. Let them know what to do before and after. Will they realize what will happen each day? This will make every day for you and your children go by very smoothly, sure enough.
8. Compliance with rules and discipline
That is, if your child has multiple caregivers, such as grandparents, grandparents, or babysitters. You may need to clearly communicate that how to handle discipline because children are aware of rules and discipline in the same direction It will be beneficial for children so that problems with limits of speech behavior etc. will not occur later.
9. Be positive.
Everyone has probably heard the saying "mind over matter", right? There is a lot of power behind your mind. This can change your perspective and re-improve difficult situations. Your kids are smart. They can recognize or even discover small changes in your behavior. Positive thinking makes the home environment more stable. Maintain your sense of humor and don't be afraid to be stupid. Look to the future and the great things that are still ahead. Find your family and rate it for your children and yourself.
10. Forgive yourself. And transcend guilt
You can skip some errors. Because in homes with a single parent it is impossible to do 100% perfect work for both of your parents at the same time, no matter how hard you try. Even a family with both parents and their members still has the bug of giving up things that you cannot do as a single parent. But think about the good things you can give your kids instead, isn't that better? Abandon the idea that life would be easier or better if the child had perfect parenthood. Because in addition to being incorrect this will also make your encouragement go to waste. Don't get caught up in guilt or remorse. You cannot control anyone's life. But the main thing is can you really be the best dad or mom?
11. Answer your child's questions honestly.
Of course, your kids should have questions anyway. Why is their home different from many friends when asked? Take this opportunity to really explain what happened and the current situation. However, it depends on their age. Because not all families are separated from divorce. Don't give too many details or talk badly about the other person. But try to be honest and honest with your children because the one who can benefit from this is your child.
12. Listen to your child's opinion
There are many details in adult relationships that children cannot understand or process. This can lead to confusion and resentment. Don't get angry at your kids, you just need to be able to differentiate your emotional needs. Treat your children as if they were children. Because they don't understand everything that adults like us do now.
13- Find a role model for the opposite sex that you introduce to your child.
why? Because your child will not build a negative relationship with people of the opposite sex with you. Find a relative, friend, or family member who will be happy to spend time alone with your child. This is to motivate them to build a good relationship with people they trust and trust. So, single parent ... you have to pay attention to what you've defined in your children's lives.
14. Show affection and admiration for the other lot.
Because they need love, praise, and acceptance from you every day, engage with your children as often as possible. By playing with the children, have your child do activities to encourage conversation. So that we get to know the ideas and readings of children at different stages of their lives. And if you see your kids doing a good job, don't forget to praise them for their efforts rather than success. Even if your child is doing the little things instead of spending money on expensive gifts. But use your time and effort to create better and lasting memories for your child.
How are you doing? Great advice for single parents who may not now know how to cope with the problems they face. No matter where you are in the world, there is still a lot of encouragement to offer. And I would like you to be convinced ... no matter how you raise your child in one way but your strength and patience are what make that baby can definitely shine for your child ... it's encouraging even if you are raising one person but you are definitely not alone.
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